To Be or Not to Be Subjective?

This blog is regarding the first comment concerning the last blog/poem titled “I Once Thought” I was going to put this in the comment section but decided to make a blog instead, because of the excessive length.

The Comment stated:
“Thanks for sharing. It’s an open blog, anybody can delete this post.
Honesty is subjective, the sooner you realize that the easier life will be.
I’m just listening out for the honesty in others.” -Anonymous


Sorry if it is too long but I needed to say something. But, please read/respond. Keep in mind I take all of this with humility and realize that my view does not mean much in the grand scheme of things. I must take this with the attitude that I am wrong. I do not intend frustration or anger.

“Honesty is subjective” (in your view) but the fact is that pointing out that something is “subjective” is also a cop-out to avoid explaining yourself when you do not believe the way the author views things. Going along with your own view IS being subjective. The point is that we use the word "subjective" too often than fully saying what we believe to be True. I do this too often as well.

Subjective is defined as the following: based on influence by personal feelings, tastes, or opinions. Looking at the definition compared to the statement "Honesty is subjective" it is good to note that your thoughts were brought on by feelings, tastes, or opinions.

To me, Honesty is telling the Truth and admitting the Truth to yourself in order to move forward into a better understanding. What does that better understanding look like? I don’t know. That will be different for everyone. I would like to know what Honesty means to you (the writer of the comment above) because putting the word “subjective” after Honesty is a cop-out to not explain yourself. (please respond explain what honesty means to you personally). After all, being “subjective” is based on emotions and/or experiences and nothing True. I do realize that me saying “True” we can easily say that “True is subjective.” But we must not just leave it there, we must explain our thoughts, otherwise there is no understanding.

After “Honesty is subjective” you then write “the sooner you realize this the easier life will be.” The first thing I would have to say is life is not meant to be easy. In fact, life is an abyss not knowing what you will fall into (I know that there is a sense of excitement in not knowing where you are falling; but, not knowing is half the battle). My understanding (notice I say my) of life is that it is meant to be difficult and to be challenged--thank you author of the previous blog titled “I Once Thought” for the challenge. If we go through life without a care in the world; for one, it is no life because of the lack real care ; and two, a life that is easy will have a self-centered focus because it is about taking the easy way. The heart of the matter is that we were made for relationships, however corny that may seem. Even though relationships are key in life, the area of interest is not having fun on your own accord with people that are also the same way. The point is to be there for help, conversation, love, and be challenged by different people. Try to be with people who are different from you (easier said than done). Lastly, I would say the main area a person needs to explore is to be genuine, authentic with other people, knowing you are not seeking acceptance but rather your own person regardless of previous thoughts and conclusions.


The last part about Honesty and Truth is the difficult part of admitting our own faults. That is why being Honest with yourself is the first step. Now, being Honest with yourself does not mean to leave it there. Challenge yourself to explore what honesty truly means. I say this regarding your last line that “I’m just listening out for the honesty in others.” My point is that looking for Honesty in someone is difficult and is needed (I will not deny that) but, we must not also deny the other areas in ones life. (I know you didn’t specifically say that but I had to mention it)


*****To the author of the Blog/Poem titled “I Once Thought” I thoroughly enjoyed it. The poem was truthfully honest and it hurt (which is good). You will find the Truth when the Truth hurts. It is just hard to find it and suffer the pain bravely.



Side note: Let it be known that this “Blog” is my first post on this site and this “Blog” will be my last post on this site.